I would like to offer an important emotional understanding to you today. It is that there are what can be considered primary and secondary emotions. The reason this is important is that many of us flounder in secondary emotions because we are unaware of what our primary emotion is and therefore are unable to address it.
There are only a few primary emotions. They are:
When you experience these emotions, whether you are conscious of that experience or not, then these emotions induce a response within you based on your life training and decisions. For most of us, that response includes a secondary emotion. The secondary emotion may come in tandem with the primary emotion so that it is hard to separate the two.
What I would like to highlight at this point is that anger is always a secondary emotion. Some of us refuse to directly experience our fear, hurt, shame and frustration, or we don't even know how. That does take a lot of guts and skill, and as I said, most of us have never been taught or prepared to do that. Instead, anger (or another secondary emotion) makes an appearance. This is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, emotions aren't bad, they just are. But the experience, processing and expression of emotions can be damaging or life-giving.
If you are experience anger or any (secondary) emotion and would like to heal your emotions then it is important to examine yourself to see which the anger arises from: fear, hurt, shame or frustration. Then take steps to acknowledge and heal the primary emotion. The secondary emotion will no longer appear to cloak or defend the primary emotion if we love ourselves and give ourselves opportunity to process and express the primary emotion, which may include refusing to participate in circumstances that cause the primary emotion.